Virginity - A Big Issue Or A Small Tissue

For some reason, I've been debating this in my head all day. So, I thought I'd put my thoughts into print as well.

According to the WordWeb dictionary Virgin means "A person who has never had sex".

There is a lot of hype surrounding the whole virginity deal. For example, most guys (read as traditionalist men) expect their wives to be virgins. According to them, a person who has had sex outside of marriage, and that too before even getting married - is a person of loose character.

I'm not joking. This is what a lot of my friends, colleagues, batchmates, acquitances have told me. And from the tone in which they were saying it - I am pretty sure they meant business!

Also, most of them reason it out saying. "Hey ... I'm pure (read as I'm a virgin) ... I've not strayed ... And so - I just expect my wife to have done the same!".
To give them some credit - I prefer to look at it as - These guys have been saving themselves for their wives, and they expect their wives to do the same.

But, what irritates me is when a guy - who I know is not a virgin - tells me he would be really pissed, and would even consider divorce, if his wife is not a virgin.
An X-Roomie is one real time example of this. I know the bloke is not a virgin (I ***caught*** and a girl at home, in a -ahem-ahem- very "sticky" situation once), But, whenever we talk about stuff like this, he says "No ways I am getting married to a girl who is not a virgin! I don't want to eat someone elses leftovers!"
Come on dude ... What about the girl you ate (pun intended!).


But, seriously ... In this postmodern era of the 21st century - Is having sex out of marriage such a big deal? Correction - Is having sex such a big deal???

Personally speaking, it doesn't matter to me whether my wife has slept with anyone before. As long as she loves me, remains loyal to me (read as doesn't sleep with anyone else) for as long as we're married - I don't give a damn about her past!


I know a lot of my friends - both boys and girls - who have ... how should i say it - have "Strayed" to the other side. And from whatever I heard from them - it's a totally fun experience!
;)

With any luck - one day - I will "stray" too ...
(I am sure a few folks I know are going to drop me snide remarks for this!!!)
:P


N.B: I know that this blog, unlike my previous blogs, doesn't make any sense. In the context - that it starts of talking about something ... But then it doesn't conclude anything ... Partly this is because I'm feeling ultra sleepy right now, and partly because the things I write here might lead to me - inadvertently ofcourse - exposing people who told me some deep and dark "secrets".
So ... I'm just going to shut up and go to sleep!